Skip to main content

Brown Family Problems

Namaste! :)

I hail from a brown family with rich Indian roots. Now that sucks. The diversity in culture and language might be good. But honestly Indian traditional customs are so narrow minded. They play a lot of importance on family values. Well, in one way that could be good and I do appreciate it but on the other hand it goes to an extreme end. I do realise that times are changing but this is not a problem that goes away so easy. No matter how modern a family you say you come from; as long as your Indian, you face the same issue. They care too much about what society thinks and mind you, Indian society is very bitchy and judgemental!

Every neighbour or older person ( called uncles or aunties) play a major role in your life. You may try your best to keep them out of your life. But they ain't going nowhere. They will have a say in your life. They end up being the ones deciding where you study, who your friends are and ultimately who you get married to! This is the most absurd thing ever. In indian culture everyone except the groom or bride has a say on who they are to get married to. If you think this is all there is, then you are genuinely mistaken, my friend.  The next concept which is so out of the world is called 'dowry'. Well that basically refers to the price tag that is put on a future bride. Each Indian woman is expected to pay their future groom a certain sum of money as dowry ( mostly in the form of gold, cash, property etc). 

More to follow on my next post :D






Comments

Popular posts from this blog

What is Happiness?

I was just reading through an article, when this quote caught my gaze. 'Happiness is the most important thing in the world, without it,  youlive a life of depression' - Marilyn Monroe. So what is happiness?  It can't be defined.  I just read about the news of the passing away of robin Williams and it was truly shocking to hear that a man of such high worth would end his life. To me he was the best at his game but that did not mean he was happy with his life. It's easy to put on a facade and move on as if  nothing ever happened. It's easy to pretend; to put on a show. You might be able to convince the whole world that you are happy with your life but if you can't even belive it yourself, then I tell you there's no way you can move on in life.  Cause one day it will get to you. Happiness is what you make of life. You get to chose your destiny. Destiny is not a fate. Happiness is what you make of life. At the end of it all, life is made up of all the choices yo…

Realists & Dreamers

So I came across this while watching an episode of modern family and it really got me thinking. I'm just gonna quote the lines below:
"There are dreamers and there are realists in this world, you think the dreamers would find the dreamers and the realists would find the realists but more often than not the opposite is true. See the dreamers need the realists to keep the dreamers from soaring too close to the sun. And the realists? Well without the dreamers, they might not ever get off the ground."


Yea well people might be divided broadly into two categories: You are either a Realist or a Dreamer, An Optimist or a Pessimist.

I consider myself a Realist. A Realist is a person who considers every aspect to a situation before making a decision. It's not that he is afraid to dream ; just that he realises that sometimes the dreams may be too far fetching. He could be termed as a pessimist. We are those kind people who only dive into stuff after  thinking about it a million t…

Brown Family Problems #2

And continuing from my previous post..
Dowry as I said earlier is kind of like a price tag. You hit the bull's eye when you get your target right on the money. It's quite a debated topic with a lot of laws in place to abolish the practice of accepting dowry; but that's all just in paper. In order to come into effect it's gonna take a long time. It basically means changing the mindset of a chunk of society which can be quite the challenge.


Another thing about Indian marriages or so would be the qualification of the bride and groom. If the bride is a doctor then she can only get married to a doctor. Equally important is your religion or caste. Getting married to a person not from the same caste or religion is like the biggest sin anyone could commit.If  He/she proceeds with a marriage of such sort, they would bring on themselves the shun of society and family. The family would practically disown you and kick you out. Trust me I am not exaggerating when I say disown. Its v…